Why Good Things Terrify Normal People

by Amy on January 14, 2015

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I remember the first time I filled a group-coaching program. My first ever five figure launch! I‘d been dreaming of it for years but when it actually happened…

I was thrilled for like a day and then terror set in.

Has this ever happened to you? That thing you’ve worked so hard for, that thing you’ve dreamed about, visualized, pray rain journaled about… finally happens and before you can finish that glass of champagne… TERROR.

And then you start wishing you could go back to the old days when everything was quiet, predictable, and most of all, comfortable.

The terror you feel comes courtesy of “The Voice.” (Queue sound effects: da da daaaaaaaa.)

When good things happen, “The Voice” will stop at nothing to offer any combination of the following 3 Big Buts…

“Yeah but…”

(Insert excuse.)

Yeah but you’re too old, too fat, too thin, too poor, too brown. Yeah but it’s already been done, yeah but you have nothing new to say, yeah but you don’t have the right credentials….

Then there’s “But what if…?”

(Insert anything that could possibly go wrong.)

What if people laugh?

What if nobody comes?

What if they hate it?

What if there’s a typo?

And the last Big But … this is the one “The Voice” likes to use to close the deal:

“But. You. Will. Fail.”

When I filled my program, THIS is what was going through my head:

Yeah but…

… who are you to be leading this group?

… what makes you so special?

What if…

… they don’t see the value in this program?

… they hate it?

… they hate you?

… they want their money back?

And of course but…

You. Amy Pearson. Will. Fail.

So here’s the thing you need to know about “The Voice:”

It never goes away.

There will always be fear. It will always be uncomfortable. There is never a point when you will have your shit totally together.

I don’t care how much coaching, talk therapy, meditation or yoga you do; the idea that you can eliminate fear from your life is a dangerous expectation that will keep you forever on the sidelines. [Tweet that!]

The obstacle is the way.” That’s Ryan Holiday. “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” That’s Joseph Campbell.

So I acknowledged the discomfort. Said hello to it. And I thanked “The Voice” for its input. Then I ran my program anyway. Because avoiding the fear would have been the REAL failure.

Nobody asked for their money back.

Nobody told me they hated it.

Nobody told me they hated me.

And I SO did NOT fail.

So stop letting The Voice keep you from really living “your one wild and precious life,” get out there and feel it all, the good, the bad and the terrifying.

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Virginia January 15, 2015 at 5:40 pm

Those gremlin voices that try to hold us back – darn them ! Good for you for pushing through them. I am currently working on mine and am close to doing my ‘what if nobody cares’ projects telling myself that there will be some that do ‘like me’.


Amy January 15, 2015 at 6:15 pm

You go Virginia! You can’t me as your tribe.


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