6 Ways to Manage Your Fears (When You Don’t Feel Ready)

by Amy on July 1, 2015

Guest post by Sherold Barr

“Rule of thumb: the more important the call or action is to our own 
soul’s evolution, the more Resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.”
~ Steven Pressfield

Just before the big event was about to start, I was backstage with my client, in awe of the rock-star caliber event I was there to promote.

Bill Cosby was the keynote entertainer. We expected a crowd of 7,000 participants.

My new client turned and asked me, “Have you ever handled a trade show this large before?  I said, “No this is my first one.”

He said, “OMG, you’re drinking from the fire hose!”

To say that I was shaking in my heels is to put it lightly.  Inside I felt like a fraud because I really didn’t know what I was doing — but I had to just do it.

Play Small or Stand Tall

I realized at that moment that I had a choice – I could play small or I could stand tall.

While I was sure of my PR skills in healthcare, I was a new kid on the block with technology, and I’d never run a tradeshow for media and industry analysts.

While I certainly did NOT feel ready, I did it anyway.

Yes, I was afraid but I took action and did everything I could to prepare for this event…

It was a huge success, and I went on to serve Microsoft in this capacity for five years.

You have to make a leap of faith if you want to grow your business or life to the next level.

Fear + Action = Courage

Not only did I survive that event, I learned that fear + action = courage.  It has served me in both of my businesses.  I’ve learned how to play my “inner game” of business and manage my fear and limiting beliefs.

Dr. Brene Brown says, “You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability, period.”

It Won’t be Comfortable.

When you’re afraid, take small action steps.  Tell yourself you’re being brave, go for courage. There is always a gift in starting before you’re ready.

Here’s the real truth: You’re never ready.

Here are 6 Ways to Manage Your Fears:

  1. Notice your fear.  We all have fears – we’re wired for it. When you feel it, just stop, notice and breathe. Whether it’s imagined or real, the first step in overcoming fear is to admit that it exists. Ask your wise inner Self what she or he would do in this situation. Listen and act on its guidance.
  2. Ask yourself: is it real or imagined? Where does your fear come from? What’s the worst thing that can happen? Most of the time, the worst scenario is not as bad as you feared. In fact, talking it through with a friend lessens the effect of fear.
  3. Expand your comfort zone. As you grew up, you absorbed some of the fears of those around you. You formed a mental zone that became your “comfort zone.” Walk to the edge of what scares you. Start small and as you gain more confidence you’ll expand your comfort zone.
  4. If you’re excited and you feel fear — do it! If you would love to do it but feel afraid, do it. If you want to take to safe route, take the uncertain route. This is how you grow, gain confidence and add a notch in your experience belt. Notice every time you make a choice to do something – especially something meaningful – are you choosing a safe choice?
  5. Fear grows when you resist it. We tend to ignore things we are afraid of. Let’s say that money is an issue for you and you don’t want to look at your bills so you put them in a drawer without opening them. If you avoid looking at them, it’ll create more anxiety and stress. What you resist persists.
  6. Develop courage. In my life I’ve noticed that what helps me to feel courageous is taking risks. So I ask myself, what will I lose by doing this? In order to conquer a particular fear, you want to cultivate courage. When you become courageous, you develop self-trust and build self-confidence. This is the healthy way to approach fear.

What I know for sure is this: When I conquer the fears of the experiences I fear the most, I feel the most alive. Those experiences are my favorite memories because I practiced courage.

Learn How to Decode YOUR Fear:

If you want to learn how to decode your fear and have it work for you, sign up here for a free class called “Become Unstoppable: How to Use Fear as Rocket Fuel.” 


Sherold Barr is an entrepreneur, business strategist and mindset coach that has built two-six-figure businesses that allow her to work from anywhere in the world. Her programs help people learn and use key mindset principles for success, build a passion-based business that makes money, and learn how to create an effective online presence using high-impact marketing to get results.

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Virginia July 2, 2015 at 2:43 pm

Sherold: Good tips and techniques for confronting, embracing, and challenging fear. Fear + Action does equal Courage.


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