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35 Excuses Keeping You From Being Happy

by Amy on July 27, 2016

No excuses - Just happy
No excuses. Just happy.

My mom used to call me a “malcontent.” I hated it when she called me that. But now I see that she was right. I always had a reason why I couldn’t be happy. Here are a few excuses I used to make that kept me from being happy. Chances are you’ve got a few yourself. See if you can spot your excuses in the list below. If you don’t see yours, add it in the comments below.

I can’t be happy because…

  1. My husband/friend/mother/kid isn’t happy.
  2. There’s so much suffering in the world.
  3. My kids would suffer.
  4. My family wouldn’t approve.
  5. I need to live up to my potential.
  6. I need to do something “important” with my life.
  7. I have to prove myself.
  8. I don’t deserve to be.
  9. There’s too much to do.
  10. I can’t afford it.
  11. I get more respect when I suffer.
  12. People need to know how hard I work.
  13. I haven’t lost enough weight.
  14. I haven’t met my financial goal.
  15. I’d be boring.
  16. I have to sacrifice my happiness to help others.
  17. It’s selfish.
  18. It’s frivolous.
  19. I’ll become lazy.
  20. I don’t know how.
  21. I don’t know what I like.
  22. I’m not attractive enough.
  23. I don’t fit into my jeans.
  24. I haven’t accomplished enough.
  25. I’m too accomplished.
  26. I’ve made too many mistakes.
  27. I have bad hair.
  28. I’m not as good as her.
  29. I’m not cool.
  30. The things I like aren’t cool.
  31. I don’t fit in.
  32. They don’t like me.
  33. They didn’t invite me.
  34. I need a drink to be happy.
  35. I need the right outfit.

I’ve finally proved my mom wrong. I’m not making excuses any more. I’m finally happy. How about you?

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Ginger July 28, 2016 at 1:47 pm

I can’t be happy today because 1. I haven’t balanced my checking account and 2. I haven’t Marie Kondo’d my house. And 3. the cat box needs scooping. O wait, the kids are fine, the pets are snoozing contentedly, my clients are happily creating, and I have a day for creativity myself? Maybe I’ll try that Door Number Happy.


Barb July 28, 2016 at 2:29 pm

I wrote these words in my journal a couple of days ago: “Just wanting something isn’t good enough. It has to be worth wanting, and I have to earn it. I earn it by meeting others’ needs and by suffering. Then maybe I can have a LITTLE of what silliness I want.” Thankfully, this thought was on a list of limiting beliefs, so I know it’s bullshit. Wow, Amy. Thanks so much for this post.


Sherry August 1, 2016 at 12:05 am

1. Even though I am an accomplished Kindergarten teacher and have taught 100’s of people to read and love themselves, I am constantly reminded that my worth is less…because I don’t have my own children…

“You don’t understand. How could you? You don’t have your own”
“Teachers who don’t have kids can come back at night for school events”
“It’s too bad you didn’t adopt.”
“Your kids would have been beautiful”
“We all had the best summer. Our MOMMY club hangs out every week.”

The truth is, I am a 3 time cancer survivor who couldn’t give the man of my dreams a child of his own. I have been fighting for my life for the last 15 years.
Yeah, I didn’t have my own…so I guess I can’t be happy…


Fiorenza September 17, 2016 at 6:03 pm

My mum to used to call me a “malcontent” or that “I’d never let myself be happy”. I have the occasional relapse now, but yes, I do try to be happy 🙂


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