Are you a failure?

by Amy on April 18, 2019

Many of you know about my essential oil obsession…

Well announcement: I’m not selling them anymore. To achieve the level of success I wanted, I’d have to put a whole lot more time and attention into the business. Time and attention, I’m not willing to give.

You could say I failed at my essential oil biz.

Yes, you could say I’ve failed at many things…

When I’m feeling down, it’s easy to ruminate, remembering all the times I have failed in life. It’s easy to compare myself to the superstars on social media and inventory all the ways I fall short.  And then I can’t sit down without feeling guilty that I have yet to live up to my potential and I start feeling like somehow, I have to earn my right to exist.

But then I remember the definition of “failure.” It means “a lack of success.” And I think about my essential oil business again.

I met a good friend through my business.

I got to travel to Prague!

I learned that multi-level marketing can be a really legit way for people to make money.

I learned about essential oils. I I use every single day. I love them. My family loves them.

I got to do the business with my kids. They loved helping me prep for classes and teach essential oils.

I introduced essential oils to new people, offering them an alternative to doctors or pharmaceuticals.

I learned that I’d rather spend my free time writing and hanging out with my kids.

These are some pretty big successes.

Yeah I could tell myself I’m a failure. But it wouldn’t be true at all.

What is true is that riding on the back of each “failure,” is a bouquet of successes, each one unique in its impact and magnitude.

So many of us are afraid of failure. We don’t allow ourselves to try because “what if it turns out to be a failure?”

But what is failure and what is success?

What if each one of your “failures,” wasn’t really a failure at all but an invitation to dig deeper into the truth about you – your values, your strengths and weaknesses, your priorities…

What if each failure was actually a window into a better future for you?

I’m not afraid of failure. You don’t have to be either.

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Joanna "Nicci Tina" Free April 18, 2019 at 11:16 pm

I am sooo with you on this! On the surface, sure – someone could say I’ve failed. Truth is – I failed to continue to do my job… in a career that I eventually saw was no longer a fit for me. I’ve failed in numerous love relationships… which led to co-creating the one I’m in now… x 14 years. I’ve failed to stop smoking so many times, which eventually led to getting an astounding amount of support and meeting a LOT of people who were also struggling (failing;) as I was, which led to creating new forms of support for myself and others, which led to doing what is now a perfect match for me, for my skills and spirit.

So, yes, “What if each failure was actually a window into a better future for you?”
Yes, yes and yes.


Anne DeMarsay April 22, 2019 at 3:07 pm

As I read your post, I was reminded of what Mark Nepo said in “The Book of Awakening”: “Living up to a dream is rarely as important as entering it for all it has to teach.” Even if an experiment doesn’t turn out the way a scientist expected (or hoped), it’s not a failure, just a chance to learn more. For me, the only real failure is not to learn from experience, even if what you learn is “Aaack! Never again!”


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