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Just one sentence

by Amy on September 17, 2019

Money, and budgeting in particular, is not one of my strong suits. Like a dysfunctional friend, I want money to be there for me without putting any work into the relationship.

I want to be a better friend to money. Kumiko over at The Budget Mom is helping me, via her blog. I’m learning how to use cash envelopes to be more aware of money so I don’t inadvertently spend it all on San Pellegrino.

Kumiko reminds me a lot of myself. “I spent money on things that I thought would make me feel better, and they did, but it wasn’t long before I was back in the mall shopping for my next outfit.

I know how that goes. It’s like a drug. But the high is short-lived. And the hangover – spending guilt and overdraft fees– is real.

She goes on to say…

“I learned that my real self is more important than my ideal self. Learning to accept who you are as a person and what you stand for is something that money can never buy.”

Huge. AHA.

Spending to feel better is a form of self-rejection. Buying something you can’t afford “feels” like self-love, but it’s the opposite.

It didn’t take a coaching session. Just one courageous woman telling the truth about her journey.

I’ve just started a free series called The Coaching Sampler. I demo a coaching tool each week. The most powerful, aha-generating, life altering coaching tools I know.

But reading Kumiko’s blog got me thinking about the times when I experienced the same kind of earth shattering aha’s without any coaching at all.

Sometimes it happened out of a conversation…

I remember confiding in Susan Hyatt many years ago that I was afraid to talk about my fascination with Astrology because my clients would think I was woo-woo. You know what she said? “Get out there and talk about it now!” And she was right. The more you share your truth, the easier it will be to find your people.

I had another conversation with my friend Jennifer Diepstraton about coaching. I wasn’t sure of my value as a coach. She asked me to think about my life before coaching, then after coaching. She told me to put a value on that transformation. I realized I would mortgage my house for the kind of changes coaching has brought into my life.

And Brooke Castillo, oh thank God for her! Somewhere she said, “Many times I believe that other people’s unsolicited opinions of me are none of my business; it’s my opinion that matters.”

This changed my world.

She also said, “You teach people how to treat you. If you aren’t treating yourself with kindness and love, please don’t expect anyone else to do it for you instead; you have shown them that you don’t think you deserve it.”

So did this.

Karla McLaren, in The Language of Emotions, said “emotions move and carry massive amounts of information.” I stopped demonizing my feelings and started listening to them right then and there.

And Martha Beck on failure! She wrote “I’ve noticed that the biggest difference between wildly successful people and total failures is that successful people fail more.” Nobody ever told me that!

All to say that sometimes your life can dramatically change for the better over ONE SENTENCE. In a conversation or a book or a simple about page.

So tell your story.
Share your experience.
Write your book.

Because your story, your experience, your expertise matters. It only takes one sentence.

What one sentence changed your world?


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