Approval Addiction

Confession: I used to lie all the time

May 28, 2015

When I was a younger version of myself, I spent a lot of time on my hair. I’d stand there for hours, squinting at myself in the mirror. Worrying about every strand. I spent so much time in the bathroom that I secretly worried I’d get electrocuted by dropping my hair dryer in the sink… Such a […]

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Sexy Moms, Little Golden Books and The Truth About “Perfect”

January 21, 2015

I used to want to be a “perfect mom.” Before the 3 you see up top, I’d fantasize about life with kids. I could smell the fresh baked cookies as I pulled them out of the oven, my hair perfectly coiffed. Somehow, I managed to look motherly yet sexy wearing a ruffly apron and high […]

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Why Good Things Terrify Normal People

January 14, 2015

I remember the first time I filled a group-coaching program. My first ever five figure launch! I‘d been dreaming of it for years but when it actually happened… I was thrilled for like a day and then terror set in. Has this ever happened to you? That thing you’ve worked so hard for, that thing […]

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Social proof sucks until you have it

January 5, 2015

I’m a student of marketing so I know about “social proof”… / Social Proof / The positive influence created when someone finds out that others are doing something. The fact is people find you more believable and trustworthy when other people say nice things about you. Doh! (This sends me right down the Approval bunny […]

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How Amy Got Her Groove Back

November 19, 2014

A few weeks ago I disclosed something that a lot of life coaches don’t admit… Depression. Some people say this “label” is unhelpful. I actually disagree. Call it what you want, telling the truth about how I was feeling instead of denying it or hiding it helped me to figure out what I needed to […]

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13 Things to Try When You’re Depressed (HINT: It’s NOT Gratitude)

October 29, 2014

Lately I’ve been sad for no reason. Sometimes so sad I don’t even want to move. My kids are healthy and happy. My husband loves me. Business is thriving. It’s easy to feel like a fraud when you’re a life coach who gets depressed. What with all the perky proclamations of gratitude, blissed out yoginis […]

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Chronic Self Doubt, Why It’s a Chick Thing

October 15, 2014

At the Vancouver Peace Summit in 2009 the Dalai Lama, speaking to a panel of female peace prize laureates, said, “the world will be saved by western women.” Western Women? I’m a master certified life coach with a very full practice in my 7th year of business — I talk to “western women” every day– […]

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I didn’t get to see her…

October 1, 2014

I was six months pregnant with twins when I drafted a report about the home mortgage interest rate deduction for the Oregon Legislature. I was working as a research assistant for a progressive think tank at the time. I couldn’t remember much about the report when I opened it for the first time in seven […]

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I Pretended to be Smart for 37 Years

September 17, 2014

I volunteered today in Alice and Anthony’s classroom. Math. I listened carefully as Mrs. D. talked about ladybugs. “If there are five ladybugs but you can only see three, how many are hiding?” As the students pondered this riddle, she showed an illustration of three ladybugs, revealing 2 more hiding underneath a flap of paper […]

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True Confessions of a Beauty Queen Gone Bad

September 3, 2014

I was crowned Homecoming Queen in high school. It was one of the happiest day of… … my mother’s life. I knew she wanted me to be homecoming queen. I’m not sure how but I did. I made it my plan to become homecoming queen for her. And thus marks the beginning of my style […]

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